I can hear your sense of frustration and confusion as you try to understand what is going on between you and your mother.  The transition from adolescence to adulthood often is difficult for students (who may want to be more independent) and parents (who may have a difficult time "letting go" as their sons and daughters mature).  There are no easy or simple solutions, but let me make a couple of suggestions. One thing you can do is to communicate with your mother in an "adult-to-adult" manner, speaking honestly and clearly about your needs and wishes and asking your mother about her needs and concerns as you take steps toward becoming more independent.  I would also suggest seeking support from friends or others you trust.  I encourage you to come to the Counseling Center.  One of our counselors would be glad to listen to your concerns, provide support, and help you identify options.