Jackson Katz, Phd, is an anti-sexist activist and expert on violence, media and masculinities. An author, filmmaker, educator and social theorist, Katz has worked in gender violence prevention for over twenty years and was one of the first activists to use the bystander approach to address gender violence prevention.
Tony Porter is an educator and activist and has been working in the social justice arena for over twenty years. He is nationally recognized for his effort to end men's violence against women.
Ways Men Can Stop Sexual Violence:
#1: Know the legal definition of RAPE.
Although there are many different definitions, often varying from state to state, most legal systems de‐fine rape as any form of penetration (oral, anal, or vaginal) without consent and by force or threat of force.
#2: Look BEYOND the legal definition.
While the legal definition clarifies rape in a court of law, it does not address sexual violence, which can be physical (grabbing, non‐consensual touching), emotional (mind games), or verbal (verbal pressure).
#3: Know the legal definition of CONSENT.
Most legal systems define consent as explicit assent to a particular sexual act. However, an assumption of consent is not enough.
#4: Look BEYOND the legal definition.
The legal definition of consent doesn't capture what good sex is all about: mutual pleasure and enthusiasm. Better communication‐ listening, stating desires clearly, and asking when a situation is unclear ‐ will ensure safe and healthy sex for everyone.
#5: Be clear about BODY LANGUAGE.
Does kissing mean that a person wants to have sex? How do you know? Ask before you act.
#6: Accept when consent is WITHDRAWN.
Even after a person has given their consent, that person can withdraw it at anytime. Sex and sexual situations are sometimes confusing and anxiety provoking. We all deserve the right to change our minds.
#7: Watch ALCOHOL and DRUG intake.
An incapacitated person (drunk, passed out, on drugs) cannot legally give consent. If a person is drunk and incapable of consenting with full awareness, wait until you both are in a state of mind to enthusiastically and clearly say yes.
#8: Understand the CONSEQUENCES.
The aftermath of rape starts with the survivor and expands outward, affecting more and more people. Common symptoms include sleeplessness, nightmares, loss of appetite, and an inability to concentrate. Noticing these symptoms in the survivor will in turn affect friends, relatives, co‐workers, and others.
CREDIT: Men Can Stop Rape Organization
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