Sex and Relationships

Healthy vs. Unhealthy Relationships

People in healthy relationships respect each other. They can talk honestly and freely to each other and share power and control over decisions. They trust and support each other and respect each other's independence. In contrast, an unhealthy relationship is unbalanced. One partner (a person in the relationship) tries to control the other.

Healthy Relationship

Equality
Honesty
Physical Safety
Respect
Comfort
Sexual Respectfulness
Independence
Humor

Unhealthy Relationship

Control
Dishonesty
Physical Abuse
Disrespect
Intimidation
Sexual Abuse
Dependence
Hostility


 10 Guidelines for Communication

1. Avoid judgmental words
2. Avoid global labels
3. Avoid "you" messages of blame
4. Avoid old history
5. Avoid negative comparisons
6. Avoid threats
7. Describe your feelings rather than using them to attack your partner
8. Keep your body language open and receptive
9. Use whole messages
10. Use clear messages


Know Your Rights!

Dating Rights

I have the right to date or not to date.

I have the right to choose my dating partner.

I have the right to set limits.

I have the right to be assertive.

I have the right to be treated with respect.

I have the right to be safe on dates and in
relationships.

I have the right to say "No" and to have my
"No" be believed and respected.

I have the right to insist on safer sex practices.

I have the right to refuse to have sex with
anyone, anytime, anywhere.

I have the right to know where I'm going on a
date.

I have the right to use my own transportation
on a date.

I have the right not to use alcohol or other
drugs.

I have the right to leave any date that feels
dangerous


Relationship Rights

The right to be treated with respect.

The right to live without verbal,
psychological and physical abuse,
including sexual abuse

The right to constructively express your
feelings and opinions

The right to pursue your own interests,
education and goals

The right to participate in decision
making

The right to privacy and time alone

The right to maintain old friendships and
make new ones

The right to enjoy time with your family

The right to say no or disagree

The right to consensual & safer sex
practices

The right to change your mind

The right to get help for yourself or a
friend

The right to leave.

Consensual Sex

 

This Is My Body