Healthy Relationships

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Healthy vs. Unhealthy Relationships

People in healthy relationships respect each other. They can talk honestly and freely to each other and share power and control over decisions. They trust and support each other and respect each other's independence. In contrast, an unhealthy relationship is unbalanced. One partner (a person in the relationship) tries to control the other.

Healthy Relationship                                                                        Unhealthy Relationship                                                   

Equality                                                                                                Control
Honesty                                                                                                Dishonesty
Physical Safety                                                                                    Physical Abuse
Respect                                                                                                Disrespect
Comfort                                                                                                Intimidation
Sexual Respectfulness                                                                        Sexual Abuse
Independence                                                                                      Dependence
Humor                                                                                                  Hostility


10 Guidelines for Communication

      • Describe your feelings rather than using them to attack your partner
      • Express what you want or need
      • Keep your body language open and receptive
      • Use whole messages
      • Use clear messages
      • Avoid global labels and “you” messages of blame
      • Discuss one thing at a time
      • Restrain yourself
      • Really listen
      • Be aware of your partner’s family patterns

Know Your Rights...Love Is Respect

Dating Rights

I have the right to date or not to date.
  
I have the right to choose my dating partner.
 
I have the right to set limits.
  
I have the right to be assertive.
  
I have the right to be treated with respect.
  
I have the right to be safe on dates and in relationships.
  
I have the right to say "No" and to have my "No" be believed and respected.    
  
I have the right to insist on safer sex practices.
  
I have the right to refuse to have sex with anyone, anytime, anywhere.
  
I have the right to know where I'm going on a date.
  
I have the right to use my own transportation on a date.
  
I have the right not to use alcohol or other drugs.
  
I have the right to leave any date that feels dangerous.

 


Relationship Rights

The right to be treated with respect
  
The right to live without verbal, psychological, physical,

or sexual abuse
  
The right to constructively express your feelings and opinions
  
The right to pursue your own interests, education and goals
  
The right to participate in decision making
  
The right to privacy and time alone
  
The right to maintain old friendships and make new ones
  
The right to enjoy time with your family
  
The right to say no or disagree
  
The right to consensual & safer sex practices
  
The right to change your mind
  
The right to get help for yourself or a friend
  
The right to leave